parents-children relationship

#sipping coffee,looking at the clock: 35 minutes of an early day.everybody sleeps.#yawning

this is something i have wanted to write since about two days ago. the eagerness was rose from a conversation between me with one of my teenage-friend. i found the conversation was really interesting yet surprising. how couldn't it be so surprising if this somebody i talked to is  kind of a person who sees that sharing is a way to HUMILIATE yourself in front of others.

this conversation was perhaps a breakthrough for this teenage-friend of mine. anyway, by keeping this event here it doesn't mean that i am the good cop who owns everything good. i just see it as something interesting to be kept in mind and learned since many people are going to be parent.

i am somebody who likes to pay attention to other people. then this teenage-friend of mine (abbreviated : TFOM) seemed so bored or lazy..i asked TFOM why, TFOM just mentioned that TFOM was tired. i tried to believe but failed. i kept wondering why TFOM was such in the mood. furthermore, TFOM did something unusual like texting.weird for him.

after i talked to TFOM here and there about various things in the world, TFOM addressed some questions related to college. I answered briefly and narratively perhaps. the shocking part was the situation in which TFOM told me about TFOM's worry feeling about college, dilemma of staying away from parents but really wish  for it, and on how a person wants to have a larger limit as an almost grown-up. 

i understand all of that feeling. trying to find out if this all has been delivered to the parents, TFOM told me no one ever knows, never tell anyone but me. shocked. although i always think that parent is not the person a teenage want to always talk to but i believe that there should be an effort to maintain a closer relationship. shouldn't parents be the party who know the children at all?!#judgmental?YES

 

being flattered of finding out that  i'm the one to talk was not good enough for me. i was sad even. 

my parents are in this type. they don't really talk to the children. i don't know if they pay too much respect on their children's privacy but to me it's bullshit (pardon my language). asking your children's feeling after a long day at school won't give anybody two more tons of burden i bet.

quoting a song lyrics titled  LISTEN: (randomly)

i am alone at a crossroad. i'm not at home in my own home. i tried and tried to say what's on my mind. i followed the voice you gave to me.but now i gotta find my own.

i'm creating that this is a situation in which a teenage could be. don't know where to head best to their future.their wish is against their parents'.having no people to 'talk' to turns them into an introvert. didnt say that being introvert is bad but personally, i prefer to talk. this is not how a relationship supposed to be.